Forgive and Forget?


 I was on Twitter and Facebook the other day, trying to market my books  (you can pick up my latest, Crashing Into Us, right here, ( ) and I did something I rarely do, which was to ask that people share and retweet the link. Not one person did. I’ll be honest, I was angry.

I do my best to promote others, most especially those whose work I enjoy and believe in. Not as much here on the blog, although occasionally, and definitely through social media. I have close to 500 Facebook “friends” and 1076 Twitter followers. My books all have 5 star reviews, and at least some of these people have told me how much they have enjoyed reading the books. Not one person! I was hurt.

I was ready to give up. After all, why am I associating with people who clearly don’t care? Why am I consoling them through losses and rooting on new jobs? Do they even care that I promote them? In thinking about it, I concluded there are a very select few who have even acknowledged that I have done so. I was ready to walk away from Social Media completely. How many cat videos can one person take, anyway?

Bitter much? That’s what kept running through my head. That, and the nagging thought that if I’m not lighting the world on fire with book sales now, sitting in my room avoiding people was probably not going to help. I also didn’t want to be angry and hurt. I mean, seriously, who wants to be that person?

So I have decided to kill them with kindness – Kill being the operative word! – Just kidding. I just want to be nice and the best person I can be, and that shouldn’t have anything to do with whether or not people reciprocate. I have to be true to myself. I know people are busy and life gets complicated. I know that you can’t control others, no matter how lovely that might sometimes be. So I am coming at this from a place of forgiveness if not understanding, and I will continue to be supportive of everyone, unless of course they turn out to be real jerks, at which point I can always unfriend them. How about you? Have you experienced similar frustration with social media?


About bridgetstraub

Author, Artist & Mom. First novel "Searching for My Wand" was published in December 2011
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11 Responses to Forgive and Forget?

  1. Arlee Bird says:

    Acknowledgements to my tweets are not overly frequent and I rarely seem to get much response from my Facebook posts. I still use those mediums for the just in case principle. Too much is out there for people to Tweet and Share and the “cute” stuff like cat videos trump the promotional stuff.

    I wouldn’t worry about it too much, but I wouldn’ t stop trying either. I think it’s just the nature of social media. You just never know.

    Are you signed up with Tribrr? That one works fairly well as far as getting blog posts retweeted. Bloggers I don’t even know regularly retweet my blog links on a daily basis. I don’t think it helps too much, but it doesn’t hurt either.

    An A to Z Co-Host
    Tossing It Out

  2. paulaacton says:

    I am finding that I see increasingly less of friends posts and more and more ads, I have made a point of telling friends to tag me in posts they want me to see or for things they want sharing simply to make sure I actually see them. I ran a competition on my like page for three weeks yet lots of friends who visit it regularly never saw the post and despite me pinning it at the top it kept moving. Facebook seem to be determined no one will make any profit via them unless they are getting their share please feel free to tag me in comments for posts you want sharing so I see them

    • That is a very interesting theory. I hadn’t thought of that and yet I’ll bet you are right. Like Arlee, I hope you know that you are certainly not who I was referring to. You have always been great and I really do appreciate it.

      • paulaacton says:

        I know it was not aimed at me but I do feel your frustration so please do feel free to tag me in comments or posts you want sharing 😀

  3. Sue Williams says:

    Stopping by from Katherine’s Corner for the blog hop. It’s sad when those you expect to support you don’t…especially if you have supported and continue to support them. I don’t have nearly the fb friends you do, but am amazed when I post a new blog how few of my friends take the time to read it. Having said that, I just had to let all that go. All you can do is just keep on doing what you love…and trust in Karma! Sue

  4. Laura Hall says:

    I have to say, the way stuff shows up on facebook is a mystery to me. Even though I “like” your page, I don’t get posts from it, or if I do, I don’t see them. It’s hard to know if people are seeing what you’re putting out there, which is frustrating, I know.

    • And Sari is constantly telling me about things you post that she sees, but I don’t. I think Paula is on to something when she says Facebook is messing with everyone’s posts and adding more ads in the hope that we’ll advertise with them instead of effectively networking.

  5. I get very little response on the social networks sweetie. Stay positive. Thank you for sharing your sweet blog at the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop ♥

  6. Sorry to hear about this, Bridget. I find it hard to stay on top of the tweets and FB posts I get. On Twitter, I look within the last hour for anything of interest. With FB, I hear everything’s been filtered, so I get regular messages from only certain people. I’ll be sure to tweet about your book!

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